Part 1: A 15 minute conversation where only one person speaks
while the other is not able to use symbolic language.
As the listener in this assignment, I found it to be a difficult
task. I felt overwhelmed. I didn’t have time to gather my thoughts, nor was I able
to find a way to get more information or ask for help in understanding what was
said. The longer the conversation flowed in one direction, the less relevant
the message became. There were many moments I wanted to interrupt or ask a
question based on what was being said but was not able to do so. It left me to
feel that the conversation was not as beneficial as it could have been should
we both been able to speak. It was like being given a
series of season finale episodes. My speaker found this project easy overall because she had
ample to say. Should this conversation occur with a speaker who had very little
to say, it would have been difficult to keep the conversation going.
The
speaker felt freedom to speak whatever was on her mind because I was not able
to stop or interrupt the discussion. She didn’t pause or wait which made it
continuous. Due to my lack of response, she began speaking louder as if it
would help me understand more. The other side of this might be frustration from
the speaker’s end which might also lead to a more stern and rigid speech.
Facial
expressions for happiness, sadness, anger, surprise, fear, and disgust are the
same across all cultures. If two cultures met for the first time the culture
with the ability to speak would greatly have the upper hand with communicating
their ideas, because they had an additional means to doing so. This allows for
the back and forth to confirm the understanding of what is implied. Usually
when an idea is first announced, it’s verbally, and then followed with a visual
to help confirm the idea.
The
speaking culture might feel frustration or pity for the non-speaking culture. They
may even reframe from speaking because they may not want to offend the other
since they could not speak. The speaker might feel bad to vent their concerns
while the non-speaker was not able to do the same.
Autistic,
deaf and mentally disabled persons all struggle with spoken language. We tend
to educate them with sign language, flash card, word substitutions to form a
common communication. We know life is a struggle without communication and
worry for those who do not possess this ability. Typically when communication
with these less fortunate individuals we may speak slowly or loudly thinking
this will help their understanding.
Part
2: 15
minutes communicating without any physical embellishments.
Although it was difficult to get through the 15 minutes, the lack of voice
tones made this conversation fitting to discuss instructions or sad circumstances. It seemed
to lack all emotion, effectiveness, and reality of the conversation. The human
face is extremely expressive, able to express countless emotions without saying
a word and unlike some forms of nonverbal communication, facial expressions are
universal.
Speaking in a monotonous voice makes it difficult to hold
a conversation. When your voice pitch doesn’t change, it’s difficult for the
other partner to keep interest in what you’re saying. They will tune out
quickly. It is not believable or boring. The use of movement and facial expression are extremely
important in communicating. When your nonverbal signals match up with the words
you’re saying, they increase trust and understanding. When they don’t, they
generate tension, mistrust, and confusion.
Facial expression can substitute for a verbal message. For example, a person's
eyes can often show a more vivid message than words do.
Body movement may add to or complement a verbal message. For example, a coach
who pats a person on the back in addition to giving praise can increase the
impact of the message.
Many
people have difficulty reading body language. The term, “action
speaks louder than words" is true. The benefit of reading body language helps to identify
deception. While words can be deceptive, the human body is not a good liar.
Another benefit of reading body language will be an awareness to understand
social situations and tell how comfortable others around you are.
Circumstances,
where it might be beneficial to not reading body language, might be a
kidnapping because you wouldn’t want the kidnapper to read your fear, because
you don’t want them to know they have the upper hand. This may also not be a
benefit in a deal or purchase. Buying a new home, you may reframe from showing
excitement. Lastly... when approached by a bear as you need to maintain a calm
voice.